My aim today is to challenge your thinking and get you focusing on what is truly important to you so that you can step up, tweak, change where you are in order to get to where you should be.

Because all of us are made to be much, much more than we currently see ourselves as.

And in order to become who we are meant to be, we have learn how to ask the right questions.

The following questions while not exhaustive, are intended to strike a nerve and stimulate your thinking.

1. Am i using my time wisely?

We each get 24 hours in a day. Yet, have you noticed how some people seem able to fit and get so much more out of their days than others?

Without a meaningful set of goals to focus on and work towards, we often find ourselves helping other people achieve their goals and ours go unmet.

Super smart people focus on their priorities and know the difference between the clock and the compass: the compass directs their focus whilst the clock helps them establish priorities for each day.

This can only happen if you are disciplined and committed.

2. Am i taking anything for granted?

When was the last time you played a game or watched a sunrise or read a book?

Super Smart people make time for special relationships to flourish and thrive. While they do work extremely hard, they regularly take time to enjoy special moments which fill them up and replenish their resources.

3. Am i choosing a positive perspective?

No matter how many times I say it, it always comes as a surprise to those who hear it: Our brains are set for threat, not reward.

Although we may be born into the love of our parents and families, we soon learn fear through the natural evolution of human development. This is normal and natural and sets up children to learn how to stay safe in the world.

The problem with threat is that the world is predicated around threat and so we are bombarded with much more threat messages than our brains should naturally receive.

So put into consideration positive perspective.

4. Am i living a life of truth?

To be truly real and alive is to live in congruence with your beliefs and values no matter the cost. You may not always get that career promotion but you will sleep better at night!!

5. Am i seeing the good in others

People are naturally good. Most people who hurt you, do it from ignorance rather than deliberate intention.

If you can believe in the goodness of people, then you can harness the positivity and optimism that resides in everyone of us.

If you struggle to see the good in others, then I suggest that you start working on yourself. I say this respectfully because in my experience, when we struggle to see the good in others, it’s because of some trauma or past experiences that we have yet to completely work through.

I choose to believe in people’s goodness. I notice when I do this, I experience more positive experiences and have better relationships.

If you can learn to work through your negative experiences, you have a powerful opportunity to make a positive impact on yourself and others.

And, this is a good thing. Your job is to distinguish the difference between your own triggers and whether their behaviour is actually inappropriate and below the line. In the case of inappropriate behaviour, you would need to decide how you will deal with it.

By being able to see the situation from a number of different perspectives, you can start to forgive yourself and the other person and let go of the negativity in the situation.

Ask yourself: 

What really matters to me in this situation?

What is really going on here for me and for them?

By learning to see the good in others, you let goodness into your life.

6. Am i letting things Go?

When someone has hurt or angered you, it is very hard to see the good in them. However, holding onto your negativity towards them is having a greater negative effect on YOU than on THEM.

7. Am i putting enough effort in my relationships?

Our relationships are arguably our most precious asset. Everyday we interact with others. We influence each other either positively or negatively depending on how we view them or ourselves.

8. Am i taking care of myself Physically?

High levels of moderate intensity physical activity which equates to roughly 60 – 75 minutes per day seem to eliminate the increased risk of death associated with high sitting time. 

These results provide further evidence on the benefits of physical activity, particularly in societies where increasing numbers of people have to sit for long hours for work.

9. Am i present and aware?

In fact, the present is actually the one place where we can find solace, happiness and peace. The reason for this is, is because we can exercise the greatest degree of control in the present.

10. Am i achieving the goal i have set myself?

Goals create a sense of purpose in our lives and have a number of critical benefits:  

  • They help us to prioritize
  • They help us manage our time effectively
  • They help us learn the value of purpose when working with others whose priorities don’t align with ours
  • They give our lives a sense of purpose and meaning

When we achieve them, we develop inner confidence and new skill-sets that set us apart.

11. Am i letting the right people into my life?

Do you manage your network appropriately? Most people I work with don’t even know who is in their network until they start to write it down for themselves. And, they are often surprised by how many people they connect with.

But, the real problem is that we don’t consciously think about our networks and how they can help us achieve our goals. We underestimate their importance.

12. Am i connected Spiritually?

Whatever your belief system is, no one can deny their spirituality. To be truly aware and awake, we need to tap into the core of who we are, spiritually.

Man is made up of physical material, the body, that can be seen and touched. But he is also made up of immaterial aspects, which are intangible and this includes the soul, spirit, intellect, will, emotions, conscience, and so forth. These immaterial characteristics exist beyond the physical lifespan of the human body and are therefore eternal.

Let go of negativity, hardness of heart, pain and hurt. These emotions cause you much more damage at not only emotional but also at a cellular level. Holding onto negativity will make you sick!

Forgive yourself and others learning to let go and forgive yourself and others releases good emotions that build your immunity, your self-confidence and enhances your relationships. When forgive yourself and others, you tap into your ability to be truly authentic, with no blocks or barriers in the way for others to see the real you.

In Summary, By taking time out regularly for ourselves and learning to ask ourselves the right questions on a consistent basis, we set ourselves up for success. Source: SkillJunction.

So there are still many question smart people still ask that make them become better version of themselves, feel free to comment some of them. And also share with others to help them become better version of themselves.

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